Could'a, Should'a, Would'a…..these are some of the worst words in the English language. "Should" is another s-word for sure. Our inner critic or ego uses "should" to browbeat us for things we did or didn't do, or when we second guess the decisions we made or want to make. It does this to keep us in our lane, small and meek. It's one of the worst things we can do to ourselves and yet, even the most developed of us repeats this behavior at times.

I have had years (and I mean YEARS) of leadership development, development models, personality tests, and even astrology shoved down my throat throughout my life. I was forced to take some of these assessments to better understand my alignment/compatibility with the company/group I was working in. Other assessments I openly pursued in hopes of better "understanding" myself. And what did all of them tell me about myself – nothing I didn't already know, consciously and unconsciously.

I was introduced to the Enneagram model in June 2019. Little did I know at the time what a life-changing experience that introduction would be to me.